Thursday, November 16, 2017

ME TOO: It was a prominent Miami Attorney. By Geniusofdespair



This is my second ME TOO post. Every woman has a lot of them.

I remember the experience as if it were yesterday..."me too."

It was a very windy day in the 1970's when Bennett Brummer was known for his Halloween Parties. A lot of Public Defenders were meeting on a big sailboat, owned by one, out near Elliot Key. The small boat I came in, with two friends, was pounding horribly the whole way there. I could not remember the two guys if I fell over them today.

My back took a beating as it wasn't a boat you could stand on. When my two friends were leaving, it was dark and they were very drunk. I was pretty drunk/sick too but I decided that going back to Coconut Grove with two drunk guys driving a very small boat, in the dark, in even rougher seas was dangerous. I decided to stay on the sailboat and wait till morning.

I was sitting on the deck alone feeling really awful, it must have been about 3 AM. A friend of the Public Defender I was dating came on deck. I thought he would ask, "Are you okay?" "Can I help?" Instead he said "Can I masturbate in front of you?" I looked out to sea and said "I don't care what you do." But I did care, it is just what I said because I just couldn't believe what he was about to do and I just wanted him to leave. I turned to stone, I didn't look, I didn't listen. I was like a block of ice. He did his business and went back below without a word. At first light a small boat with two women in it passed by. I flagged them down. I asked them to take me to the dock at Elliot Key.

From the dock someone from the park gave me a ride back to Dinner Key.

The masturbater is a prominent attorney here in Miami. I recently told a judge I know this story when she said she knew him.

I don't remember anyone else on the sailboat except this prominent Miami Attorney. If he ran for anything I would probably call him and come out.  But otherwise, it will remain etched in my mind as one of the worst memories of my life. I can't cruise now because I feel trapped, like I felt that day.

So: Me too.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

Name the name. Otherwise this serves no one other than yourself

Anonymous said...

If you identify who this lawyer is, maybe others will too. Keeping him anonymous will only serve to enable him

Anonymous said...

You do realize that you just admitted to consent, right?

Steve Cody said...

Wow. Sorry this happened to you.

Anonymous said...

Very powerful

Geniusofdespair said...

If "I don't care what you do" means "yes" to you, so be it. It doesn't to me.

Anonymous said...

He qualifies for a Trump nomination to the Supreme Court.

Barbara Falsey said...

I don't care -- certainly does not mean yes. I hope he reads this -- or someone passes it on to him. I understand not naming him but would love to be sure he gets this post. A pig is a pig is a pig. But I do like pigs who have real snouts and roll in real mud.

Geniusofdespair said...

Every public defender in the 70's is caught in this giant net I have cast. Let them figure it out.

Anonymous said...

At night, on a boat in the Atlantic Ocean? What else were you to say as he could have easily thrown you overboard. So many women who have been hurt, and who live with it the rest of their lives. The memory and the day-to-day fear of these powerful men hurting them is why so many women will never tell. And it changes their view of the world and their lives completely. It influences were they go and where they will not go. Wherever they go, they are constantly watching in all directions. . . So much effort into self-protection. . . Maybe society is going to change.

Geniusofdespair said...

Biscayne bay not the ocean.

Anonymous said...

There is an expectation of decency from males who have an high educaiton level. It’s devastating when you believe that
a person of stature who understands and represents the law would act above it.

Michelle Niemeyer said...

Creepy!

Anonymous said...

What am I missing here? you said you were going out with him - so he had a weird sexual desires - break up with him

Geniusofdespair said...

You must study reading comprehension. What I said was:

A FRIEND of the Public Defender I was dating came on deck.